tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post7812091310055323457..comments2023-05-21T05:02:14.379-04:00Comments on Three Little Bees!: A "Stress Shaped Brain"Sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08935757091952994294noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-2559826341746635742011-04-18T23:40:37.275-04:002011-04-18T23:40:37.275-04:00Claire is my bio daughter and younger than Zoya (s...Claire is my bio daughter and younger than Zoya (she's 15 months), but she is also miss independent and getting her bottom 2 molars too. I understand the drama of wanting to be left alone and and then wanting someone by her side NOW. And my daughter can self soothe...:) Hope things get a little easier when those teeth get in!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06474584473012742915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-13021295180210163542011-04-17T21:54:48.654-04:002011-04-17T21:54:48.654-04:00aweyers2https://www.blogger.com/profile/14645458825819938944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-16231913407614633102011-04-17T21:53:28.585-04:002011-04-17T21:53:28.585-04:00You are absolutely amazing and you guys are so ble...You are absolutely amazing and you guys are so blessed to have such an amazing daughter. I hope that one day I can make my dream and another little person's dream come true too. I hope I can be half the mother you are to Zoya! Hang in there--aweyers2https://www.blogger.com/profile/14645458825819938944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-18522184371182083572011-04-17T20:54:32.529-04:002011-04-17T20:54:32.529-04:00Thank you for that posting Sarah...cause I've ...Thank you for that posting Sarah...cause I've been feeling exactly the same way. Lots of guilt that I'm not doing all I can do; I want nothing but the BEST for Bryce and so he can blossom. Being home almost 6months now and I am just filled with anxiety; I LOVE this little boy than I could ever imagine. <br />Again, THANK YOU for your honesty. It really helps :). We need to catch up some time on the phone (between both our crazy schedules, LOL)<br />KimLife with an Angel from Abovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00375363444436567363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-57379911332394903822011-04-17T18:57:56.085-04:002011-04-17T18:57:56.085-04:00Sarah...breathe and give yourself a break!! You se...Sarah...breathe and give yourself a break!! You seem to be a loving mama and all of us loving mamas make mistakes and we all have days we don't want to talk about. You are doing a fantastic job!!! Love your way through it and you will get there just the way you are supposed to!!<br />Sunnie in NCSunniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290809788707965580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-81737925358673363882011-04-16T21:35:18.894-04:002011-04-16T21:35:18.894-04:00Hey, Sarah! I am sending you an email so I won'...Hey, Sarah! I am sending you an email so I won't make too long of a comment here:-) Lizlizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10949794668672997662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-13132978326965879252011-04-16T17:48:47.349-04:002011-04-16T17:48:47.349-04:00I love reading updates on sweet Zoya! We've b...I love reading updates on sweet Zoya! We've been following your journey from afar. (well not too far- just in Cleveland!)<br /><br />My "typical" 7 year old daughter had the exact same kinds of reactions/tantruming/clingy-ness as a 2-3 year old, and beyond. What Zoya is experiencing is not unusual for a two year old, at all. With our daughter, we have realized that when she has artificial dyes (especially Red 40), she can't get a grip on her emotions- even at 7. Have you considered that for Zoya? <br /><br />I am blown away by both Zoya and you! You're doing an amazing job loving her just as she needs to be loved. Reading your blog has been a blessing for our family.<br /><br />Hang in there and know you're doing a great job!!!!just another manic mom-dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11665771752380945323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-77759653396883038732011-04-16T16:02:20.066-04:002011-04-16T16:02:20.066-04:00HI Sarah,
You are being way too hard on yourself....HI Sarah, <br />You are being way too hard on yourself. You should try to step back and see how amazing your baby is, and how amazing you are as her mom. Please, for your own well-being!!<br /><br />Take care, you are doing a great job. Praying for Mya to get better soon.<br />Sue M.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00344407770997715999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-30542446893608250722011-04-16T14:22:51.696-04:002011-04-16T14:22:51.696-04:00Still praying for Mya.
Oh that sweet little girl ...Still praying for Mya.<br /><br />Oh that sweet little girl takes my breath away. Rest assured there is one thing I can guarantee you, the challenges will be many but the rewards will well out weigh them all the time. Rewards of smiles, hugs, loving kisses, tender words of "I Love You Mommy", may they fulfill you forever and ever and help ease those fears of the unknown.<br /><br />I love you all!The Mac's Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04216982420030770388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-65623740235194530702011-04-16T12:53:32.427-04:002011-04-16T12:53:32.427-04:00I love the honesty - I think potential adoptive pa...I love the honesty - I think potential adoptive parents would really appreciate this post and what-to-maybe-expect for their own new family member(s)!<br /><br />If Zoya's family age is 1-year than she is developmentally doing good in regards to self soothing. It will come; she needs that continual reassurance from you that she didn't have at the orphanage whenever her needs were not being met. You'll probably find her comfort/cling time slowly becoming less and less. Have you thought it might also be connected to separation anxiety? Like "I know my Mommy and Daddy will comfort me if I get upset... I hope they don't let go!" <br /><br />I'm no expert by ANY means but that is what I feel in my heart reading your post. I have an 18-month-old and the tantrums and inability to soothe herself when she gets really worked up, etc., etc. are just so normal. I think it's a normal process for any child though I can definitely see how it might be a more difficult process for an adopted child, especially one with special needs. But I believe she'll get there with time and patience and a whole lotta love which you guys have in abundance!!!Joy@WDDCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709113785857792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-23264001683820694232011-04-15T22:55:16.790-04:002011-04-15T22:55:16.790-04:00Praying for you! A "stress shaped brain"...Praying for you! A "stress shaped brain" is so difficult to figure out. I have 3 that have Reactive Attachment Disorder (all from US foster care) and all three are so very different. Their brains are stress shaped to the point of disrupting their lives. I have seen one get almost completely better. One is starting to show improvements. The other one (who came out at the youngest age and should have been the least affected as far as most would think) is fighting attaching so hard that he makes himself miserable. <br /><br />Your little one has attached and is seeking you for comfort. That is GREAT! You have to be doing lots "right". :) Hang in there. She is at an age where behaviors can be challenging and children with Down Syndrome are "extra" stubborn. :)Redeeming Hidden Treasureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840189938315657166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-13281330337821912052011-04-15T22:20:03.604-04:002011-04-15T22:20:03.604-04:00Oh she looks so happy in the pictures! She really ...Oh she looks so happy in the pictures! She really is a cutie pie. My daughter is 15 months and over the past 2 weeks she has become a little monster.... I dont know if I should laugh at her behavior or give her a time out. I love that you really take all factors into consideration. All will work out.... :)littlelolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05583748586353964302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-7771803465330742862011-04-15T22:01:35.236-04:002011-04-15T22:01:35.236-04:00oh she has the cutest button nose!! here is how we...oh she has the cutest button nose!! here is how we thought of our little Russian when he came home at age 2. it was as if those two years just didnt count. so he was really like a baby. he didnt know even how to put his arms out to go into the sleeves of a shirt if I put his hand in. he was HELPLESS and he CRIED nonstop for MONTHS. Even now 6 years later he still relates to younger kids better. he is smart academically but he is just emotionally younger. but in time he learned and for the most part acts like an obnoxious 8 year old with adhd. he came from a rough place. he was 15 pounds at age 2. By contrast our Ukrainian kids were smaller stature but not too much and were much closer to their real age when they came home but they had their moments too(still do!) August will be a year with the newest 4. Last october was a year with the 2 before that. I didnt find a year to be a milestone. (not that it cant be just it wasnt for us) hang in there Mama. every first time mom asks herself ALL of these questions. what am I doing wrong? is it me? is it them? is there something more wrong? is this how other kids act? etc. adoptive moms ask this too! so we adoptive moms get a double dose of the what ifs! she is just so darling. I will be thinking about you and hope that things let up a bit and smooth out. Ethan too very much liked structure!MoonDoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11707506968348810606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-58184200686839334732011-04-15T21:50:03.135-04:002011-04-15T21:50:03.135-04:00Wow! Thank you so much for your honesty here! And ...Wow! Thank you so much for your honesty here! And I will certainly be ordering that book! What you said really hits home for me in my line of work as a social worker working with children who have aquired brain injuries. I always am trying to not focus on the brain injury part...maybe it's their personality, maybe it's a teenager thing, etc. <br /><br />My rule of thumb is to always remember the facts (diagnosis, previous history) but to never let the facts determine the possible outcome. :)<br /><br />Praying for your family, Miss Maya included!<br /><br />Brooke Annessa<br />www.theannessafamily.blogspot.comThe Annessa Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11929967116411498173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-14185897382359485222011-04-15T21:47:37.992-04:002011-04-15T21:47:37.992-04:00Before I had 3 kids, I knew everything about paren...Before I had 3 kids, I knew everything about parenting - LOL! <br /><br />Even when they're your "natural" kids, they can differ so widely from "normal" kids and it can be hard to find the answers. Hang in there - you're doing great!<br /><br />My thoughts go out to your doggie. I hope it's nothing too serious.Bulldogmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04773653470602929019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-92048323335805466132011-04-15T21:45:35.668-04:002011-04-15T21:45:35.668-04:00Hang in there Sarah. God gave you your precious l...Hang in there Sarah. God gave you your precious little Zoya for a reason. :) Praying for all of you, including Mya!! Hugs!!Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308643129356264734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-69995841485105705682011-04-15T21:41:37.854-04:002011-04-15T21:41:37.854-04:00Praying for your family to see great improvements ...Praying for your family to see great improvements soon. God's love will guide you gently through. One of my favorite hymns at church is "When the storms of life are raging, stand by me." I have that posted near my desk at work and when I feel particularly anxious about something I look at it and I say it out loud. I feel a sense of peace most of the time after that. He truly picks us up and carries us through our storms. I will pray for Mya, too. I have a "baby dog" that recently suffered illness and is now a lot better and I spent a lot of hours in prayer for him. I think God knew that I still needed him in my life a while longer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-691280826512919640.post-63975453453260273062011-04-15T21:11:26.436-04:002011-04-15T21:11:26.436-04:00Zoya is precious and gets more beautiful every day...Zoya is precious and gets more beautiful every day!<br />Praying for Mya.heatherbrownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02456990754074308268noreply@blogger.com