Let's face it. Zoya will always have to work a little harder to prove her worth to others simply because of the stigmas that are attached to Down Syndrome. It will take a little longer for some people to see the gift that she is. Some people will miss out completely on her gifts because they already have incorrect preconceived notions about her. It's a truth that she will face every day of her life.
Through the adoption process and when we returned home with Zoya, we constantly heard, "Wow you are amazing people for doing this," which really bugged me. I just cringed every time I heard it. It took me a while to figure out why it bothered me so much. Part of the reason was that when people said this, it implied that being Zoya's mom was a task...a chore. I understand that people think we sacrificed a lot to adopt Zoya, and in a sense we did, but all the things we sacrificed were replaced by a far more beautiful and worthy "thing" better known as Zoya and all the lessons she has taught us.
But lately...people have started seeing what we see. You know how I know? Because now I hear "You guys are so blessed to be her parents" more often than I hear, "She is so lucky to have you as her parents." And when I hear that I just smile real big because I know they're seeing exactly what we see!