Along this journey, many people have had a hard time understanding why we would want to adopt a child with special needs. Many people assumed or speculated that we must not be able to have biological children. A lot of people, upon hearing our adoption news, would say something along the lines of "thats so wonderful, I didn't realize you couldn't have your own kids," or "how exciting" and then they would ask friends of our if we were unable to have our own children. Others have gone on to ask if we will ever have biological children. In many people's eyes we are doing things backwards. In God's eyes we are follwing his plan. Somewhere along the way, I found a good answer to give to those wondering, "can't you have 'your own' children?" I reply "adoption is our first choice." When people realize adoption is our first choice, that almost opens it up for them to feel that they are all of a sudden allowed to judge. They react differently than when they assumed we couldn't have biological children. They say things they never would have said if we were adopting as a second choice. It's almost like it if were our second choice, then it would be okay, but since it is our first choice, people have a very hard time understanding why we would choose to do this since we have the ability to have our "own" children. Well Zoya is our "own" child. She may not have been made from our genetic makeup, but she has been born in our hearts. I don't see any difference other than that obvious fact. This may not be the "old fashioned way" of having a family, but it's God's plan for our family and we will honor His plan. He is the only audience we care to please.
Our FIRST choice is Zoya. We already love her to the moon and back.